Just came across the following on a forum about gardens.  'I can scarcely 'keep control' of a house, adding a much woollier, entirely entropic room just threatens me with a nervous breakdown.'  Is this my attitude about gardens or what?!

'I can't take credit for my children when they are being wonderful, so I shouldn't blame myself when they are being difficult.  I always thought they had to be perfect  or else it meant that I wasn't perfect.  Well I'm not and they're not.  We're all just human.'

Questions for today.  Why do you not realise that things you say are insulting, hurtful, painful and callous?  Why do you think all this is ok because you are being 'truthful'? Why is it ok to hurt people because you are 'just saying'?  Why are you completely incapable of paying someone a compliment or indeed, even saying something nice?  Is making someone feel good about themselves seen as a weakness?  Is being kind really such an awful thing?

Just started reading a book that I haven't read for about 26 years.  Typical of the kind of books I used to read all the time back then.  I never realised why I gradually stopped reading them till today.  The way the womens physical appearances where focused on and written about.  In fact, I swear the Daily Mail writers could have written these books, the writing style is so similar, maybe they did.  If I could be bothered to trawl through them, I'm sure I would find a woman being described as fragrant!

How is it that in the health and safety obsessed times that we are currently living in, our children are still able to participate in certain sports in school?  Yep, I'm talking about rugby in particular.  Is it a case of if we label something a 'sport', then violent and rough behaviour becomes acceptable?

Is life more difficult for the gobshite who lives with the internaliser or the internaliser who lives with the gobshite?

I recently commented on Martin Kemps' decision to embrace his grey locks.  I believe what I actually said was 'with dyed hair, I always thought he was meh, but as a silver fox, gorge!'  I have had roughly 4 months of disaster with dyes, trying to cover up my greys, ranging from damaged hair from a bleach bath to a scalp so itchy from the chemicals, I feel I'm ready to rip it off.  I won't allow myself to work out roughly how much money I have spent trying to rectify the colour, let alone how much hair I have had to cut off in order to get rid of the damage.  Thing is, I don't think I was even ever that bothered about the grey, everyone else was banging on about how ageing it was.  Don't we ever wonder why our faces lose pigment at the same time as our hair does, might it be that it happens so that they don't fight each other?  That's why dyed hair can make us look a little strange.  Anyway.  Back to Martin.  I stand by what I said, though it makes me sad that it will be a very long time and maybe not in my lifetime, when someone will look at a photo of a woman with grey hair, and say 'fuck, she looks so much sexier, so glad she ditched the dye'.

Just seen photos of David Bailey at his latest exhibition.  He looks like the male equivalent of a bag lady but it won't get mentioned because he is such a major talent but most women on the other hand, no matter how talented, will always have their appearance scrutinised, judged and commented on.