In my experience as a mother, I have come across 3 types.  The working mother who makes the stay-at-home mother feel like her brain has turned to mush by choosing to stay home.  The stay-at-home mother who makes the working mother feel less than completely caring by working.  Then there's the worst kind of mother who can fall into either category.  The one who will constantly go out of her way to make you feel like a highly inadequate mother.  To the latter.  I manage to feel inadequate in my parenting skills every single day, I really don't need any assistance thank-you very much.  I am doing perfectly well all on my own!